- Emotional neglect – This is when a carer fails to meet the emotional/affectional need of a child. Bare this is mind for a while, we will shortly talk about this particular topic in more depth after reviewing and understanding the other types of neglect.
- Physical neglect – We can briefly describe this type of neglect as failure to provide everyday needs of a child. This covers food, clothing, a clean house ,with clean bedding and everyday necessities.
- Medical neglect – This is when you do not take your child for regular check ups at the hospital, dentist and eye clinic. When we say regular here we are referring to as and when needed.
- Educational neglect – What’s referred to under this heading is the depravation of education. The law does not stop you from home-schooling so long as the child is exposed to education and follows a regular schedule where his needs are fulfilled under this category.
1st Looking at the first type of neglect “emotional” – From amongst the many reasons I chose to home-school is because I felt like my children had been neglected in school emotionally. They where pressured at a very early age to compete with others around them by been categorised in ability (Red, Amber, Green) which became their only focus and thus led to loosing confidence and hope. Additionally some children are very able but because their hand writing may not be presentable hence they might be young age 5-8 years old, then the teachers focus diverts in judgment from their ability to their presentation not allowing them to succeed and step up that ladder up until they sort presentation out, a very unrealistic goal given to please Ofsted and not to develop a child’s confidence instead by allowing them to learn from their mistakes and by allowing them to learn new thing as presentation sorts itself out as the years go by.
2nd – Physical neglect, I would consider school to be pretty good in providing meals with no failure in schools, however after privatizing the schools the food courts become privatised also giving the school the ability to ban pack lunches to make these courts richer. This can be described as neglect from the schools themselves as the options are tightened and the children go hungry hence some are not used to certain types of foods. A lot of the children complain to their parents of feeling hungry as they could not eat the meals provided due to the poor quality of taste and not necessarily nutritional values. Its only fair that those kids whose parents do not neglect them are able to provide their kids with meals that are healthy yet tasteful similar to that they eat at home. Force feeding them something they cant eat is still neglect as it goes to waste and does not fill anyone.
3rd – Medical neglect, This is a very controversial one because the odds are always against you for this one. The schools have a nurse that should decide whether your child is fit enough or not according to them based on the judgement of a nurse paid by the school itself. We all have duties of care to our children, therefore I do not agree with the idea of having to take my child to school the next day for them to decide whether my child is fit enough or not. A good parent will always take prior action and seek advice from someone superior in knowledge that a nurse. i.e. the doctor. When advised to stay home then the school should simply comply with that. Instead we have once again due to pressures from the council letters threatening us with fines if we’ve had a bad year of reoccurring illnesses. We then get blamed for neglecting our child from education. Can you ever win?
4th- Educational neglect, Finally this links very well with all that spoken about hence it all links. There are certain circumstances going towards more extreme situations that I’ve heard of where a child might be going through anxiety and depression that forces him/her to stay home as in such hard times all that child wants is comfort from his family. If the parents don’t give him/her that support then they’re neglecting him/her but in the other hand the school want that child to attend otherwise the caregiver is neglecting him/her of an education. Now, due to been forced to go to school
his/her depression increases which leads to his appetite being affected this can be evident with weight loss. Now the child is neglected physically. There’s no doubt that in these extremist of situations parents tend to home-school to have the flexibility to deal with the situation in the best possible manner.
Can you ever win? Should the council have more in place to help these children? More flexible solutions need to be allowed as supposed to keeping it black or white. Leave you comments it would be interesting to see what you think.
I honestly love using this book to teach my kids the human body. This book is very intractive and informative. the layout of the book makes it appealing to visual learners its perfect For 5 years old +. This book has engaging activities which made my job easer and that much fun. I found that this book has enhanced my children imagination because of the colours and the bold print writing has they work their way through each body system passing quirky characters.
I would recommend you to get your copy of this book, every page is exciting and fun to the one before and kids will never get bored.
wouldn’t it be nice to come home to a ready made dinner after long hours of working or just have ready meal prepared but some of us don’t have that luxury. But all hope is not lost ,don’t worry I have the solution for you guys, is not exactly a fair tale but it will save you time and money.
lets make a delicious lentil soup which takes no more than 20 mins.
Here are the ingredients your going to need: serving of six people
1 1/2 cup of lentils
1 medium onion
2 cloves of garlic
1 gram of turmeric
1 gram of salt
4 cup of boiling water but more could be needed.
2 tablespoon of olive oil
The ingredients are very simple however you can spice it up by adding chilli ,lemon, Paprika and so on .
To begin soak the lentils in warm water for few munities to soften. In the meantime chop the onion in small pieces cook with olive oil and stir until onion is tender stir in the garlic, bay leaf. Add the lentils, turmeric, salt and boiling water approx. 4 to 5 cup, leave it for 15 to 20 minute and ENJOY.
There are different ways that money can be categorized in this particular statement. To some money is their earnings, to others is quality time spent with family and for some it might be investing in that which “really” matters.
AS for those who work hard and spend time working to gain from this worldly life, you’ll find that they will lack from the previous two. They will be distant from family and wont invest in that which truly matters. You’ll find that this person grows older in age quicker, levels of stress are higher and generally lacks happiness, all to see his addiction of that balance increasing, it becomes his only pleasure thus his only purpose of life. He will not enjoy his children grow nor will they have learnt from him. He will loose himself in a delusion which will cause his own destruction.
Those who categorise wealth as spending time with family, making family happy at all times, creating a good ambient a good atmosphere where they insure that kids are never feeling sad nor upset is also a bad category. The children become priority in this case, forcing the parents to fulfil all their necessities and more. The parents then become the slaves of these kids, worried about their wellbeing, over mothering them to an extent they loose self efficiency and over spoil them to an extent it forces the parents to follow the first category of needing the worldly life in excess to fulfil their “needs.”
Those who invest in that which “really matters” The hereafter, the one who understands the true reality of life which is death will be successful as they will have the correct balance. We all celebrate a new born but never reflect on our dead. We always hide away from the word, “dead” is not used anymore we much prefer passing away. We hide the truth by not talking about it, we hide the truth by hiding graveyards which are always in remote areas. No matter what life you’ve chosen you will still end up in that same ground so its important to invest in the pleasure of Allah. The rich needs to give to the poor, the one with family needs to be compassionate with the orphan, the one that has health must use it for righteous things. Invest for that which really matters that is death.
After years of searching for products and regular visits to the doctors for my daughters eczema. I came across this product accidently after visting a cultural shop that sells organic and traditional products, so without even thinking for a moment I purchased it and tested small part of her arm for three coincident days. The result was amazingly shocking.
I made the decision to use it regurally for two weeks on the effected area. The cream straight away soothed and took away the itchiness on the first day of the two weeks trial. I will list all the benefits and change it had on my daughters life.
- pain free
- itchy free
- better sleeping pattern at night
- clear skin
- no scars
- no allergic reaction
- moist skin no dryness
You can get this product from online like Amazon, E-bay, and any organic shops near your area.
If you decide to purchase this product make sure you read the instructions and the ingrediencies, lastly consult a doctor or pharmacies before using it.
I love my kids and there isn’t anything I wouldn’t do for them, but when it comes to finance life can grab us by the horns. Day to day expenses, trips and necessities can make it hard for us to express our love towards them by fulfilling all their needs.
- Here are some tips that will keep your child preoccupied whilst having fun and learning. Let your children aid you with cooking, the benefits to this are many. Kids learn skills through this that teaches them independency whilst enjoying themselves doing something “different”. Ensure that recipes are constantly changing to keep them engaged and most importantly make sure you involve lots of vegetables, children are most likely to eat something they’ve prepared themselves
- Expose your children to childhood games. We’ve all enjoyed them without the need of spending in expensive gadgets such as game consoles, phones and Ipads that corrupt and disconnect families. You’ll find through doing this the bond increases amongst your children and yourself for FREE.
- Encourage connection with nature. A great way of doing this is by allowing them to grow their own crops, to encourage them to playout in the garden under any weather conditions and to play with other children. The benefits of the aforementioned points are as follow; growing crops can be very enjoyable and educational, playing out under any weather conditions so long they’re clothed for that is also educational and can help with health and developing a stronger immune system and finally playing with other children develop social skills and confidence.
- Find ways in education fun. Have days in which everyone in the family puts their gadgets aside. It will only be a matter of time when boredom will appear amongst you forcing your brain to want to challenge itself and engage on something. Make this “something” be useful, creative and imaginative activity. Allow your children to write stories, mental arithmetic challenges and most importantly sharing religious (Islamic) stories.
How confident are our children? How do we measure confidence? Do we even know the signs to a confident child?
I’d like to focus on Boys particularly. We all know that boys are harder to deal with in a woman’s perspective. We show them all the love possible and focus much on their emotional needs, but our we doing what’s right for them? are they developing to be confident and self efficient, or are they simply becoming too attached and needy?
Having read many articles that prove that which I’ve experienced my self growing up, that children develop more confidence having a male role model around them. Specially boys hence they’re to be that future man. If we look at the animal kingdom we come to find that this nature is true, for instance the baby male cub will grow to do just what a male lion is to and the female cub will learn from the female.
How do we increase our boys confidence?
Tough love – It is very important for a woman not to give into her emotions. Young boys will feed from that and use that weakness against us.
Responsibilities – We all know that we mothers are extremely over protective and we always have our kids back, giving our young boys responsibilities will make them feel that they’re returning trust back and that they’re taking control of the household which is something they’ll have to do in the future. A brief example my 6 year old might one day annoy or push around his younger sister. How should we intervene in such situation? The temptation here is to shout at him, when a better option is to make him feel responsible for his sister by telling him that he needs to protect her and take care of her hence she is younger in age. We all know that at such young age he’s not able to protect in truth but this will indeed motivate him to do so in the future and to be there for her as they become younger adults.
Do not tell him off in front of people – We know children make mistakes and thus learn from them. How do we best teach them without making them feel more restricted to express themselves than others? Which leads to a decline of confidence around people. What should a mother do in a scenario where her child might have hit someone else’s? The most common mistake made is telling your child off in front of the other child or parent which will directly empower the other child, when in truth we don’t know the full story and we forget how dramatic children can be. The best way of dealing with this situation is by calling your child over and ignoring the event that just happened, from that you ask the crying child if he/she is ok without allowing the other child to complain about your own, compliment him/her and talk to his/her mother in a friendly manner. When you’re alone with your child, comes the parenting. We start asking what happened, from there you advise on how could that scenario have been improved and what conduct your child should have instead taken. This will grant and develop trust and maturity for his future, to think before acting.
Encourage group work – Ensure your children solve problems together whether by means of play, communication or homework, allow children to discuss their answer and back up their arguments. Never tell them they’re wrong but rather asked them to improve, you may aid during this process. This teaches them to be able to back up arguments, show understanding and most importantly develops confidence in public speaking. This is healthy and important for academic purposes especially.
If you’re a single mother, widowed or in a distant relationship it’s very important that you allow the child to spend time with his father in a weekly basis. If for any reason this is not available nor feasible it’s a must that you expose your boy to a good role model within you family. This could be brothers, cousins or any other male trustee. You would be surprised how much that child will learn.
Sufficient research proves that students who are helped at home by their parents or tutors make most progress in school. Therefore I would argue that schools normally provide the guidance on what to teach as opposed to making “the big impact”. I find that if you’re not doing your part at home the likeliness of your child benefitting from that taught in school is actually little. Thus I hold in opinion that there’s no point to those parents with the time and ability to home-school to take their children to school. I’ve made the brave move to home-school my 8 year old daughter and 6 year old son hence I have the time and ability to do so.
I would like to share some of the work my kids are working on. I will happily upload pictures or videos of their maths work once you’ve told me What your thoughts are? Please leave your comments below. It would be interesting to see if you still hold your view after my uploads.
Money, the one thing we chase the most and can’t live without. We are all familiar with the famous saying “money is not everything” but in truth without it we may face many difficulties. The world is designed to evolve around money and it’s very difficult not to be part of this world and chase it. We’ve all been in that situation where we spend without thinking and end up with surprises in our letter box. From missed electricity, gas and phone line bills to taxes from the council, road tax and car insurance invoices.
I aim to give some ideas on how to best save in order to avoid falling in that same mistake over again of asking your loved ones for that last minute help. If you struggle and have only one income coming in, whether that is a low paid job, if you’re on benefits or you’ve got a higher paid job but your outgoings are hard to handle, I feel that the tips I’ll be sharing with you will benefit you under any circumstance.
Jam-iyah or hiqbat
The following terms are used by Middle eastern and East Africans to refer to groups of people that congregate money and share it in turns. I would like to explain this in more depth. This consists of e.g. 12 people putting a monthly total of 20 pounds each for the whole year, which equates to a total £240, now based on needs the leader of the group will decide who takes the money in each month. This is beneficial because you may enter two or three Jam-iyahs one for each need. i.e. Gas and electric, car insurance and kids activities. The purpose of this is for you as an individual not to over spend, this forces you to keep focused on paying this £20 pounds each month.
How does this benefit those who my have more money? The answer is simple, they’ll be joining Jam-iyahs that take more monthly instalments for instance £300 a month each. This has helped people buy new cars without the need to take loans with interest from the bank, and in some extreme cases houses have been bought also using this method of lending.
Look for bargains constantly:
I would consider shopping from the cheaper supermarkets, such as Aldi and Lidl. Never be ashamed of saving and been smarter. Research has shown that middle to upper class people shop from these supermarkets and that does with lower income tend to go to Tesco and other supermarkets with similar prices, they feel the need to due to pressure of showing they’re equal and able. You’ve got nothing to prove to anyone there’s nothing wrong in saving. In fact the person that deserves to be laughed at is the one paying more when it can be bought for less.
Another method I find that works really well is enjoying regular visits to car boot. How many times do we buy clothes for our children that are wore once or twice before they’re too small? How many times do we buy new clothes that rip after a wear or two? Car-boot is a fantastic way of saving by buying clothes that are used in everyday wear. Additionally you can buy books , toys, house decorations etc..
Finally I’d like to summarise with this. We should buy new stuff but only for special occasions and not everyday wear and tear.
I really hope this helps you as it helped me as I am in a better position financially.