Hi my name is Hiba Maha and iam here to lay down the reality of parenting, here it goes; firstly there is no such thing as perfect family or perfect child ect.., to be honest we all just go along with it and learn from our mistakes. So STOP!!!giving yourself a hard time and stop comparing yourself to other parents. know that each family operates differently just like how our 10 fingers are not the same ect..so enjoy and laugh at those moments when life turns into a big zoo, because amongst that hectic crazy moments is when you find strength and memories of lifetime.

THE RIGHTS OF WOMEN IN ISLAM

Praise be to Allaah.

Islam honours women greatly. It honours women as mothers who must be respected, obeyed and treated with kindness. Pleasing one’s mother is regarded as part of pleasing Allaah. Islam tells us that Paradise lies at the mother’s feet, i.e. that the best way to reach Paradise is through one’s mother. And Islam forbids disobeying one’s mother or making her angry, even by saying a mild word of disrespect. The mother’s rights are greater than those of the father, and the duty to take care of her grows greater as the mother grows older and weaker. All of that is mentioned in many texts of the Qur’aan and Sunnah Prophetic traditions). 

For example, Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to his parents”

[al-Ahqaaf 46:15] 

“And your Lord has decreed that you wor`ship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour.

And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: ‘My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was young’”

[al-Isra’ 17:23, 24]

Ibn Maajah (2781) narrated that Mu’aawiyah ibn Jaahimiah al-Sulami (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: I came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said: O Messenger of Allaah, I want to go for jihad (battle) with you, seeking thereby the Face of Allaah and the Hereafter. He said, “Woe to you! Is your mother still alive?”  I said, Yes. He said, “Go back and honour her.” Then I approached him from the other side and said: O Messenger of Allaah, I want to go for jihad with you, seeking thereby the Face of Allaah and the Hereafter. He said, “Woe to you! Is your mother still alive?”  I said, Yes. He said, “Go back and honour her.” Then I approached him from in front and said, O Messenger of Allaah, I want to go for jihad with you, seeking thereby the Face of Allaah and the Hereafter. He said, “Woe to you! Is your mother still alive?”  I said, Yes. He said, “Go back and honour her (lit. stay by her feet), for there is Paradise.” 

Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan Ibn Maajah. It was also narrated by al-Nasaa’i with the words: “Stay with her for Paradise is beneath her feet.” 

Al-Bukhaari (5971) and Muslim (2548) narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: A man came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said: “O Messenger of Allaah, who is most deserving of my good company?” He said: “Your mother.” He said: “Then who?” He said: “Your mother.” He said: “Then who?” He said: “Your mother.” He said: “Then who?” He said: “Then your father.” 

And there are other texts which we do not have room to mention here.  

One of the rights which Islam gives to the mother is that her son should spend on her if she needs that support, so long as he is able and can afford it. Hence for many centuries it was unheard of among the people of Islam for a mother to be left in an old-people’s home or for a son to kick her out of the house, or for her sons to refuse to spend on her, or for her to need to work in order to eat and drink if her sons were present. 

Islam also honours women as wives. Islam urges the husband to treat his wife in a good and kind manner, and says that the wife has rights over the husband like his rights over her, except that he has a degree over her, because of his responsibility of spending and taking care of the family’s affairs. Islam states that the best of the Muslim men is the one who treats his wife in the best manner, and the man is forbidden to take his wife’s money without her consent. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“and live with them honourably”

[al-Nisa’ 4:19] 

“And they (women) have rights similar (to those of their husbands) over them to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them. And Allaah is All-Mighty, All-Wise”

[al-Baqarah 2:228]

And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “I urge you to treat women well.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 331; Muslim, 1468. 

And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 3895; Ibn Maajah, 1977; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi. 

And Islam honours women as daughters, and encourages us to raise them well and educate them. Islam states that raising daughters will bring a great reward. For example, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever takes care of two girls until they reach adulthood, he and I will come like this on the Day of Resurrection,” and he held his fingers together. Narrated by Muslim, 2631. 

Ibn Maajah (3669) narrated that ‘Uqbah ibn ‘Aamir (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “Whoever has three daughters and is patient towards them, and feeds them, gives them to drink and clothes them from his riches, they will be a shield for him from the Fire on the Day of Resurrection.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Ibn Maajah. 

Islam honours women as sisters and as aunts. Islam enjoins upholding the ties of kinship and forbids severing those ties in many texts. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “O people! Spread (the greeting of) salaam, offer food (to the needy), uphold the ties of kinship, and pray at night when people are sleeping, and you will enter Paradise in peace.” Narrated by Ibn Maajah, 3251; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Ibn Maajah. 

Al-Bukhaari (5988) narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah, may He be exalted, said to the ties of kinship: ‘Whoever upholds you, I will support him, and whoever breaks you, I will cut him off.’” 

All of these qualities may co-exist in a single woman: she may be a wife, a daughter, a mother, a sister, an aunt, so she may be honoured in all these ways. 

To conclude: Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allaah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allaah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. Women have the right to a decent life, without facing aggression or being wronged. Women have the right to be educated; in fact it is obligatory to teach them what they need to know about their religion. 

Anyone who compares the rights of women in Islam with their situation during the Jaahiliyyah (pre-Islamic days of ignorance)or in other civilizations will understand that what we are saying is true. In fact we are certain that women are given the greatest honour in Islam. 

There is no need for us to mention the situation of women in Greek, Persian or Jewish society, but even Christian societies had a bad attitude towards women. The theologians even gathered at the Council of Macon to discuss whether a woman was merely a body or a body with a soul. They thought it most likely that women did not have a soul that could be saved, and they made an exception only in the case of Mary (Maryam – peace be upon her). 

The French held a conference in 586 CE to discuss whether women had souls or not, and if they had souls, were these souls animal or human? In the end, they decided that they were human! But they were created to serve men only. 

During the time of Henry VIII, the English Parliament issued a decree forbidding women to read the New Testament because they were regarded as impure. 

Until 1805, English law allowed a man to sell his wife, and set a wife’s price at six pennies. 

In the modern age, women were kicked out of the house at the age of eighteen so that they could start working to earn a bite to eat. If a woman wanted to stay in the house, she had to pay her parents rent for her room and pay for her food and laundry. 

See ‘Awdat al-Hijaab, 2/47-56. 

How can this compare to Islam which enjoins honouring and kind treatment of women, and spending on them? 

Secondly: 

With regard to the changes in these rights throughout the ages, the basic principles have not changed, but with regard to the application of these principles, there can be no doubt that during the golden age of Islam, the Muslims applied the sharee’ah (Islamic law) of their Lord more, and the rulings of this sharee’ah include honouring one’s mother and treating one’s wife, daughter, sister and women in general in a kind manner. The weaker religious commitment grew, the more these rights were neglected, but until the Day of Resurrection there will continue to be a group who adheres to their religion and applies the sharee’ah (laws) of their Lord. These are the people who honour women the most and grant them their rights. 

Despite the weakness of religious commitment among many Muslims nowadays, women still enjoy a high status, whether as daughters, wives or sisters, whilst we acknowledge that there are shortcomings, wrongdoing and neglect of women’s rights among some people, but each one will be answerable for himself.

information from islam qna

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3 SIMPLE WAYS TO STAY HEALTHY IN WINTER

I think I must have been a bear in my pass life for some reason I seem to always hypernate every winter AND eat a lot. So this time round I have decided that something has to change in my life before I self destruct, OKAY OKAY maybe I’m being little bit extra but you know what I mean. In order to stay fit is important to cut out unhealthy diet so we can start being happy within, here are 3 ways to alter your lifestyle which helped me and many people that I know.

WALKING

Walking is the number one way to staying fit it is proven that walking Half an hour a day could change your health and well being thus It helps with anxiety and depression specially after giving birth is advised by medical experts to go out for tip of fresh air hence is a great way to meet new people to socialise outside your circle and it doesn’t cost you a dime.

HEALTHY EATING AND FASTING

Next one is just eating healthy and fasting twice a week this is so healthy for Mind and body detox and all in the comfort of your home. Research shows Theat benefit of eating healthy and fasting are it Enhance Heart Health by Improving Blood Pressure, Triglycerides and Cholesterol Levels. … In addition, one study in 4,629 people associated fasting with a lower risk of coronary artery disease, as well as a significantly lower risk of diabetes, which is a major risk factor for heart disease

CARDIO WOKOUT/ZUMBA

Home cardio / Zumba the choice is yours I think it is the best option when the weather isn’t that great you can turn up at the comfort of your own home and maybe you could invite a friends to workout with you or If home workout isn’t your thing then you could always join fitness centres or a fitness community.

WHEN A 6 YEAR OLD WRITES A STORY..

HELLO wonderful people todays post is something very different as you can tell by the title.

THE HUNTER AND HIS PET DRAGON

Once upon a time there was a hunter who had a pet dragon that liked to eat fish and he was really good at sports and liked to fly a lot. The dragon once fought a bigger dragon and he won. His owner was called Mr Flint lockwood, and he liked to play basketball with his bold dad and he won. Flint Lockwood had a friend called Sam who wore glasses. One day Flint Lockwood ,Sam, and his pet dragon decided to go on an adventure to a far far away place to see the elephants elephants jump over the fence, They all arrived at the far far away land and they sow the elephants elephants jump over the fence and they didn’t not come back until the 4th of December. Flint Lockwood said to the dragon” fly us up we want to see the elephants elephants”.

Flint Lockwood liked the elephant elephants so much that he said to them ” you can be our pets” the elephants ran away.

THE END



TEAM HOME -EDUCATION

I am currently homeschooling all my children, the descion came about after seeing my children not being pushed to their capability and other personal reasons off course. I’m m not going to lie to you at the beginning it was taugh it meant that i had to change my whole schedule and create a new one that best fitted us , don’t get me wrong the kids were having the time of their life and so on. After few days past I created a new lesson plans, and off we went to purchas all the learning equiments we needed and boy was it expensive!.

I hope you liked my little introduction ; now LETS DIVE IN! the aim of this post is to share my experience and thoughts in home education and the positive impact in children. For parents who are thinking of home schooling their little ones i hope this helps; the list are as follows.

CHANGE IN BEHAVIOUR

We know that kids pick up habits from other children unfortunately these include bad words, negative attitude, bullying and so on. In home education kids can be who they want to be without peer pressure and we get to help them find social situations where they aren’t introduced to poor attitudes and behaviour issues.

CONFIDENCE

I’m Ever since I took them out of school their confidence has grown drastically in all areas of life they are more excited about learning and more independent, they don’t shy away from other kids and easily adapt in new surroundings specially my youngest daughter.

POSTIVE ATTENTION
children want our attention. They associate time with love and want to spend time with us. in school our children are gone from us long period and this type of routine starts when they are 4 years old so could you imagine after child returns home you child only has 20 minutes to talk to you before they start doing their homework or the extra activities. In home education there is no fight with time you and your child can spend the whole day bounding and doing activities. When you home-school your kids get positive attention from you, they get the gift of your time, and so they stop seeking to get your attention in less desirable ways.

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LESSON PLANS

When you hear about lesson planning it can be daunting, but trust me is not that difficult is actually quit easy, the first step is that you have to think about is how to make the topics entertaining and personal for each child. You can purchase text books ,story books ,educational games and print out activity sheets to make each day different. I also organize one day of the week were I reward each child for their hard work thus making them enjoy and work harder.


Reviewing types of neglect – Children

  1. Emotional neglect – This is when a carer fails to meet the emotional/affectional need of a child. Bare this is mind for a while, we will shortly talk about this particular topic in more depth after reviewing and understanding the other types of neglect.
  2. Physical neglect – We can briefly describe this type of neglect as failure to provide everyday needs of a child. This covers food, clothing, a clean house ,with clean bedding and everyday necessities.
  3. Medical neglect – This is when you do not take your child for regular check ups at the hospital, dentist and eye clinic. When we say regular here we are referring to as and when needed.
  4. Educational neglect – What’s referred to under this heading is the depravation of education. The law does not stop you from home-schooling so long as the child is exposed to education and follows a regular schedule where his needs are fulfilled under this category.

1st Looking at the first type of neglect “emotional” – From amongst the many reasons I chose to home-school is because I felt like my children had been neglected in school emotionally. They where pressured at a very early age to compete with others around them by been categorised in ability (Red, Amber, Green) which became their only focus and thus led to loosing confidence and hope. Additionally some children are very able but because their hand writing may not be presentable hence they might be young age 5-8 years old, then the teachers focus diverts in judgment from their ability to their presentation not allowing them to succeed and step up that ladder up until they sort presentation out, a very unrealistic goal given to please Ofsted and not to develop a child’s confidence instead by allowing them to learn from their mistakes and by allowing them to learn new thing as presentation sorts itself out as the years go by.

2nd – Physical neglect, I would consider school to be pretty good in providing meals with no failure in schools, however after privatizing the schools the food courts become privatised also giving the school the ability to ban pack lunches to make these courts richer. This can be described as neglect from the schools themselves as the options are tightened and the children go hungry hence some are not used to certain types of foods. A lot of the children complain to their parents of feeling hungry as they could not eat the meals provided due to the poor quality of taste and not necessarily nutritional values. Its only fair that those kids whose parents do not neglect them are able to provide their kids with meals that are healthy yet tasteful similar to that they eat at home. Force feeding them something they cant eat is still neglect as it goes to waste and does not fill anyone.

3rd – Medical neglect, This is a very controversial one because the odds are always against you for this one. The schools have a nurse that should decide whether your child is fit enough or not according to them based on the judgement of a nurse paid by the school itself. We all have duties of care to our children, therefore I do not agree with the idea of having to take my child to school the next day for them to decide whether my child is fit enough or not. A good parent will always take prior action and seek advice from someone superior in knowledge that a nurse. i.e. the doctor. When advised to stay home then the school should simply comply with that. Instead we have once again due to pressures from the council letters threatening us with fines if we’ve had a bad year of reoccurring illnesses. We then get blamed for neglecting our child from education. Can you ever win?

4th- Educational neglect, Finally this links very well with all that spoken about hence it all links. There are certain circumstances going towards more extreme situations that I’ve heard of where a child might be going through anxiety and depression that forces him/her to stay home as in such hard times all that child wants is comfort from his family. If the parents don’t give him/her that support then they’re neglecting him/her but in the other hand the school want that child to attend otherwise the caregiver is neglecting him/her of an education. Now, due to been forced to go to school
his/her depression increases which leads to his appetite being affected this can be evident with weight loss. Now the child is neglected physically. There’s no doubt that in these extremist of situations parents tend to home-school to have the flexibility to deal with the situation in the best possible manner.

Can you ever win? Should the council have more in place to help these children? More flexible solutions need to be allowed as supposed to keeping it black or white. Leave you comments it would be interesting to see what you think.

“FIRST BODY BOOK” SHORT REVIEW



I honestly love using this book to teach my kids the human body. This book is very intractive and informative. the layout of the book makes it appealing to visual learners its perfect For 5 years old +. This book has engaging activities which made my job easer and that much fun. I found that this book has enhanced my children imagination because of the colours and the bold print writing has they work their way through each body system passing quirky characters.

I would recommend you to get your copy of this book, every page is exciting and fun to the one before and kids will never get bored.

DELICIOUS LENTIL SOUP

wouldn’t it be nice to come home to a ready made dinner after long hours of working or just have ready meal prepared but some of us don’t have that luxury. But all hope is not lost ,don’t worry I have the solution for you guys, is not exactly a fair tale but it will save you time and money.

lets make a delicious lentil soup which takes no more than 20 mins.

Here are the ingredients your going to need: serving of six people

1 1/2 cup of lentils

1 medium onion

2 cloves of garlic

1 gram of turmeric

1 gram of salt

Bay leaf

4 cup of boiling water but more could be needed.

2 tablespoon of olive oil

The ingredients are very simple however you can spice it up by adding chilli ,lemon, Paprika and so on .

Method

To begin soak the lentils in warm water for few munities to soften. In the meantime chop the onion in small pieces cook with olive oil and stir until onion is tender stir in the garlic, bay leaf. Add the lentils, turmeric, salt and boiling water approx. 4 to 5 cup, leave it for 15 to 20 minute and ENJOY.

Time is Money


There are different ways that money can be categorized in this particular statement. To some money is their earnings, to others is quality time spent with family and for some it might be investing in that which “really” matters.

AS for those who work hard and spend time working to gain from this worldly life, you’ll find that they will lack from the previous two. They will be distant from family and wont invest in that which truly matters. You’ll find that this person grows older in age quicker, levels of stress are higher and generally lacks happiness, all to see his addiction of that balance increasing, it becomes his only pleasure thus his only purpose of life. He will not enjoy his children grow nor will they have learnt from him. He will loose himself in a delusion which will cause his own destruction.

Those who categorise wealth as spending time with family, making family happy at all times, creating a good ambient a good atmosphere where they insure that kids are never feeling sad nor upset is also a bad category. The children become priority in this case, forcing the parents to fulfil all their necessities and more. The parents then become the slaves of these kids, worried about their wellbeing, over mothering them to an extent they loose self efficiency and over spoil them to an extent it forces the parents to follow the first category of needing the worldly life in excess to fulfil their “needs.”

Those who invest in that which “really matters” The hereafter, the one who understands the true reality of life which is death will be successful as they will have the correct balance. We all celebrate a new born but never reflect on our dead. We always hide away from the word, “dead” is not used anymore we much prefer passing away. We hide the truth by not talking about it, we hide the truth by hiding graveyards which are always in remote areas. No matter what life you’ve chosen you will still end up in that same ground so its important to invest in the pleasure of Allah. The rich needs to give to the poor, the one with family needs to be compassionate with the orphan, the one that has health must use it for righteous things. Invest for that which really matters that is death.

PRODUCT REVIEW GLYSOLID for ECZEMA

GLYSOLID CREAM

After years of searching for products and regular visits to the doctors for my daughters eczema. I came across this product accidently after visting a cultural shop that sells organic and traditional products, so without even thinking for a moment I purchased it and tested small part of her arm for three coincident days. The result was amazingly shocking.

I made the decision to use it regurally for two weeks on the effected area. The cream straight away soothed and took away the itchiness on the first day of the two weeks trial. I will list all the benefits and change it had on my daughters life.

  • pain free
  • itchy free
  • better sleeping pattern at night
  • clear skin
  • no scars
  • no allergic reaction
  • moist skin no dryness

You can get this product from online like Amazon, E-bay, and any organic shops near your area.

If you decide to purchase this product make sure you read the instructions and the ingrediencies, lastly consult a doctor or pharmacies before using it.